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Against jealousy.

I've been trying to figure out what purpose jealousy serves in our psyche. I think it's pointless, and come strictly from selfish desire. We have insecurities and when people do something that makes us feel insecure about ourselves, society tells us that we're allowed to be mad because, well something happened that made us feel bad. We shouldn't ignore this feeling, we should communicate to each other about it, but allowing ourselves to get angry and berate someone is rarely productive. I'm starting to believe that I should love every person as I wish to love them, in the best way that I know how, whatever that happens to be. I don't think it makes sense to draw lines in the sand beyond that. We try to label our relationships we have with others in order to attach value or significance to them, but that's merely a reflection of our own desire to be valued. We don't need binding agreements between one another to show each other love. What we need is honest communication. And we need to be honest with ourselves about our desires, and only then will we have a hope of truly being honest with others.

I hope there are other people who understand what I'm trying to describe. True love is unconditional, and if we truly love someone else, we will trust them to be honest with us, and we should hold ourselves accountable to behave in the same manner.

When you recognize that jealousy only breeds contempt within yourself, you can feel free from so much stress and anxiety by tackling your jealousy head on and understanding it. Some things you will know you're not okay with and some things you may just be scared about, but when you have honesty there is no need for jealousy. Jealousy often causes us to seek to control that which isn't ours to control, it comes from the same self- important thought process as greed and it should be avoided. Just love and you will be loved in kind. And love yourself enough to be honest with yourself when you're making yourself miserable, because feeling sad and sorry for yourself isn't worth your time either.

I hope I meet somebody who can try to think about friendship in this way and I hope to develop that friendship as deeply as possible. Perhaps I will be able to do so with all of my friendships. At least I can try.

The saying goes it is better to have loved and lost then never loved at all. I would argue that you don't lose in love, you learn, and you grow, and if you truly love somebody, we learn to not only accept them, but be happy for them as things change, and perhaps there's no reason to ever let go of our love for one another. Perhaps love can be a continuum, ever changing, and different with everyone we know.

I truly want to love everyone, it feels hard sometimes, but I do. I can't know if anyone will ever love me like I love them, but in the end, that isn't what I want. I will love whoever, and I look forward to seeing how they love me back.
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